MY ENGAGEMENT HAD BEEN CALLED OFF


We are drawn to fascination about certain things when we read about them in some blogs or watch in movies or read in some books and hope that if the same things happen in our life without compromise it would be wonderful or at least grateful.Suddenly life hits you and puts u into the ground and say “Honeyyyyyy that is not as easy as you thought or read.” We get up from the ground ,clear the dust from the body and say “ Damnnn !! another fight.”

My engagement has been called off by the bride’s side quoting some stupid reason. I wonder is it an excuse they have been looking or the real reason (as u may be never know how a human being thinks). The reason was the bride’s father was not sure of me taking care of his daughter. He said he do not have faith in me. I do not have counter argument for this. I am not a salesman to convince him that if his daughter marries me life is wonderful and happy forever.How wonderful life would be depends on how consciously you lead your life and Happiness is always within a person. Nobody can make anybody happy unless and until he /she is willing to be happy.

Relationship happens when the persons involving in the relationship choose to have one. Since they have choosen they always looks for the ways to be make it work. When u enter a relationship u will bound to get skeptical about it but u do not enter a relationship with a fear of failure.What I understood was the bride parents especially her father (this is my guess it may be gal also never know ) are in a state of fear of failure (or it is too much of love that they cannot see their daughter not even slightly uncomfortable) and the intensity of the fear (may be due to extreme love)was so much that it lead to a break up. U can console a person in sadness but u cannot do anything if a person is fearing about something.

The cliché  “ Known devil is better than unknown” does not work in a relationship when u wanted to be happy. Whatever may be the reason they chose to leave me and try some other guy in a hope of finding perfect happiness which they assumed I cannot provide. Though I was shocked / baffled initially after a prolonged thought I did appreciate their guts of breaking the norms and calling off the marriage. If they think they know with whom their daughter will be happy I guess they need to make a call before it gets too late. On a positive side What if they are right? 

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Ravs world said…
Dude, there is a dialogue in Jurassic park "Life find its own way"..something happened lets assume it had happened for good, being an optimist i would say that..I know you are not a guy who gives up easily..Get ready for another journey again and no fear for falling any more since you know its just getting up and clearing the dust :)
March 31, 2012 at 2:54 AM
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