Communicating
I always intrigued by the way people communicate. Initially I thought communication can only happen through words. If I have to say even more specifically, I was brought up based on the assumption that communication means talking in english. I lived with that assumption for almost 22 years. I never studied arts. I am was an engineer. I was taught and I always thought analytically. I vividly remember the day, when I saw two people commuting in the city bus conversing through the hands. I understood nothing but I saw magic in their hands. Their eyes were sharp and focused. I think that was my first conscious observation of human body language.
I had a emotionless face. While I was training for the campus placements during my under graduation days, the trainer said to me "you are talking as if you are talking to a stone" (these were the exact words she said). I was stunned. I didn't know how to put emotion into what I said. I never experienced any emotions at that time apart from frustration and angry. One can readily say when I was angry, it just appears on my face. But communicating what I believed, what I meant was a nightmare because I made beliefs out of compulsion and believed in something that I never experienced.
By watching movies intensely, I understood some emotions or it is better to say mapped the unknown emotions with the words. I observed the body languages of different people in their different states of mind. I just used to sit in parks, bus stops to observe the body language. I even planned to join my friend's theatre training but dropped off due to the high costs.
I never observed the emotions or the body language within me, until one day when I started swimming and horse riding. Swimming and horse riding,made me observed my muscles,my body and its movements. In this process it some how happened that I started looking within me. At the same time I met Teju, she articulates her thoughts well. She started sharing me her write ups and then her friends write ups and then some random third persons write ups and eventually I ended up reading their followers write ups and so on and so forth. In the process of about six months I read hundreds of classy, well articulated, well expressed sublime articles.
I also read lot of other well written books in the mean time. My vocabulary got increased. However I realized that choosing language to express your emotions was a bad idea. No matter what there will be a gap in the communication. It was so intriguing to learn the word less communication.
Example: When a child cries, she communicates her discomfort. My relative who cannot pronounce the words properly communicate his discomfort and comfort through his anger and shouts.
Somehow I found dance, a perfect way for communicating and expressing the emotions. There wont be a gap when expressed through dance. I am really enjoying dancing.
I had a emotionless face. While I was training for the campus placements during my under graduation days, the trainer said to me "you are talking as if you are talking to a stone" (these were the exact words she said). I was stunned. I didn't know how to put emotion into what I said. I never experienced any emotions at that time apart from frustration and angry. One can readily say when I was angry, it just appears on my face. But communicating what I believed, what I meant was a nightmare because I made beliefs out of compulsion and believed in something that I never experienced.
By watching movies intensely, I understood some emotions or it is better to say mapped the unknown emotions with the words. I observed the body languages of different people in their different states of mind. I just used to sit in parks, bus stops to observe the body language. I even planned to join my friend's theatre training but dropped off due to the high costs.
I never observed the emotions or the body language within me, until one day when I started swimming and horse riding. Swimming and horse riding,made me observed my muscles,my body and its movements. In this process it some how happened that I started looking within me. At the same time I met Teju, she articulates her thoughts well. She started sharing me her write ups and then her friends write ups and then some random third persons write ups and eventually I ended up reading their followers write ups and so on and so forth. In the process of about six months I read hundreds of classy, well articulated, well expressed sublime articles.
I also read lot of other well written books in the mean time. My vocabulary got increased. However I realized that choosing language to express your emotions was a bad idea. No matter what there will be a gap in the communication. It was so intriguing to learn the word less communication.
Example: When a child cries, she communicates her discomfort. My relative who cannot pronounce the words properly communicate his discomfort and comfort through his anger and shouts.
Somehow I found dance, a perfect way for communicating and expressing the emotions. There wont be a gap when expressed through dance. I am really enjoying dancing.
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